My mother-in-law shaved my head while I slept on the very night the United States Army promoted me into one of the most important commands of my career.

newly appointed commander, reviewing intelligence flows and personnel vulnerabilities with the calm attention expected of me. My staff brought me binders, questions, risk assessments, and coffee. They spoke to me with respect. They argued with precision. They learned quickly that I preferred truth over comfort.

In the other world, my husband had no continue reading …